Discovering that your partner or spouse has been unfaithful can hit you like an earthquake. The emotional aftershock can make it difficult for you to be there for your family, manage your daily life, and think clearly about your options.
Q. I’m divorced from the father of my two sons, now age 7 & 11. I’ve had a few failed relationships but in the last eighteen months met someone with whom I could be really happy. His wife died of
We are born with a set of basic relational needs – acceptance, affection, security, attention, appreciation, approval, encouragement, respect and support. When one or more of these needs are missing in childhood, the child learns to adapt their behaviour in an
In my previous article I referred to how any relationship cracks you’ve avoided addressing before the lockdown can become great big chasms after being cooped up for nearly three months. Those fragments of frustration, quirky behaviours, lack of communication, misunderstandings
Q. I’ve been with my partner 7 years; we have two daughters age 4 and nearly 6. Life has become a series of routines we perform every day, as if on autopilot – I take care of the children, house, cleaning,
Q. My wife and I have been together 18 years. Life was great; we got on really well, had fun, amazing holidays, a lot of laughter and were equally matched with our views on life. It all changed after our first
The current global pandemic has forced us into a life we’ve not experienced before – lockdown. For those in co-habiting relationships, this has meant working and living with your partner or spouse 24/7, with or without children. Any relationship cracks
Q. My husband works from home since the lockdown but I’ve continued going into work. I leave early in the morning and get back around 5pm. When I get in he’s usually in front of the TV with a couple of
Back in the 70s & 80s children and teenagers seemed to be more resilient than the current generation of future adults. Is it my imagination because I’m now older, a product of being a teenager in the 70s? Or are
Q. My daughter was due to take her GCSE exams this year, which has now been cancelled because of Covid-19. She was already stressed and anxious before the lockdown – she worked until late every evening, including weekends, doing coursework, revision
In this book, author and paediatrician Kenneth Ginsburg, offers parents, teachers and primary caregivers a guide to help children and teens deal with stress and build seven key principles to develop resilience and cope with life’s challenges – competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution,
Have you ever stopped to think about how resilient you really are? You’re most likely too busy juggling home, children, career and attempting to establish some form of work-life balance to notice. “Resilience is a precious skill. People who have
Going into isolation and lockdown has changed our world overnight. Those who can, are working from home, some with children being home tutored and accessing educational materials online. Stepping out is restricted to only essential trips to the supermarket, walking
Many unresolved relationship issues contribute to high stress levels, and if left unresolved can lead to much bigger problems, including separation or divorce. What once started as small frustrations often become big irritations when ignored. Sometimes we go into denial
Remembrance Day, originally set to remember the Great War dead, is a reminder of all those who lost their lives in battle. What about the men and women that survived? Some have carried the physical, emotional and psychological scars of
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for 5 years. The first two years were good, we went out, had fun. Three years ago he lost his job and since then he has struggled to stay in another
This book offers a frank, emotionally charged account of mental health from both sides of the spectrum – the patient and the doctor. “A few years ago, I found myself in A&E. I had never felt so ill. I was
Q. I’m 36, divorced with two sons. I was single for 4 years after I separated from my husband. Every week when my mother called she asked if I’d found a man. She’d give me a lecture about why I
This book explores the Drama Triangle and the games, behaviours, beliefs, perceptions and pay-offs of each of the three roles we play in our interactions with others – persecutor, victim and rescuer. The Drama Triangle plays out at an unconscious
Q. My 14-year-old son Jason had been suffering with bouts of depression on and off since his dad and I separated two years ago. Before that he was a happy boy, playing football and being just like any other child
‘Reasons to Stay Alive’ is Matt Haig’s personal account of how he pulled himself away from the brink of suicide, worked through depression, anxiety and mental crisis, and learned to live again. We are all touched at some point in
This book explores the psychological games we play in our relationships with family, friends, work colleagues and loved ones. Every interaction or social intercourse with another person is an opportunity to unconsciously play one or more of the many games,
Q. I’m happily married with three children; I have a good job, live in a nice house, have an amazing wife and love my kids dearly. Life at home with my family is good, we are happy. At work I’m
I was traveling on the London underground and sat opposite me was a mother with her son of about 7 or 8 years old. I witnessed the following conversation: Son – I was upset at school today mummy Mother –
This book is an essential guide for parents, teachers, health professionals, therapists and anyone working or caring for children. Levine and Kline provide valuable information and tools to help recognise, prevent and heal childhood trauma from infancy to adolescence. Trauma
We have all at some point experienced situations we believe we are unable to deal with because we feel they are beyond our realm of coping mechanism. They can leave us feeling vulnerable or afraid and when our self-confidence is
This book unravels unhealthy love relationships. It addresses why there are some people who always fall in love and seem to attract those who do not love them back. In this book Mellody explores needy and co-dependent personalities, commitment phobic
The decline of sex has burst onto the news this past week. The Times and BBC published articles about a recent survey that suggests that less than half of men and women in the UK have had sex at least
Most people have at some point bought a raffle or lottery ticket, placed a bet on a horse at the Grand National or had a go at a slot machine. You might be one of the regular weekly lottery buyers
This book explores how trauma develops when we are overwhelmed by a potentially life-threatening event we are unable to deal with effectively. Peter Levine claims that traumatic symptoms are rooted in the residual energy created by the freeze response. Left
Food, weight loss and weight gain occupies the minds of millions of people every day and fuels a multi-billion pound industry. Eating and weight are linked to how we are feeling about our relationships with loved ones or early childhood
This book explores the root causes of mistrust and the journey we take when we are betrayed or hurt by another. It explains why we don’t see the world clearly when we feel deceived and how we fall into a
This is an empowering book about having the courage to handle difficult conversations with honesty and compassion. It offers insights and techniques to help you develop qualities of leadership with sincerity and communicate truthfully with others. It describes the fears
It may be hard to remember that once, perhaps a long time ago, you may have been in love with the person you are now in conflict. You may even question what you saw in them? Most people have at
Statistics show that we are experiencing the lowest rates of divorces since 1973 according to figures published by the Office of National Statistics. This is linked to the gradual decline in marriages as over the last 20 years more people
Having your child flagged-up as potentially being on the Autism Spectrum is not something a parent wants to hear from the nursery or primary school they attend. The suggestion of a CAMHS referral (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service) fills
This book is about how people process information, what motivates them and how they make decisions. Shelle Rose Charvet explores how language and behaviour patterns manifest unconsciously, how we can identify it in ourselves and others, and how we can
This book, originally published in 1992, has become an international bestseller. It explores the differences between men and women, and how we can have better relationships through building better communication, understanding and acceptance. We live in a world where women
This book is about dealing with toxic shame that drives addiction. We tend to see addiction in the context of alcohol, drugs, cigarettes or sex and pay little attention to our compulsion to super-achieve, being a workaholic or drawn to
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