Are you at a crossroads in your career, relationship or life choices and don’t know which direction to go? Do you fear making the wrong decision? Or does your inner critic kick in a little too quickly drowning all possible
Tension, resentment, anger, arguments and power battles in relationships can quickly build up. They are the result of communication breaking down long before you become aware or willing to admit. Like a dripping tap – it builds up until the
Back in the 70s & 80s children and teenagers seemed to be more resilient than the current generation of future adults. Is it my imagination because I’m now older, a product of being a teenager in the 70s? Or are
My wife and I have been together 18 years. Life was great; we got on really well, had fun, amazing holidays, a lot of laughter and were equally matched with our views on life. It all changed after our first son was born.
This book explores the Drama Triangle and the games, behaviours, beliefs, perceptions and pay-offs of each of the three roles we play in our interactions with others – persecutor, victim and rescuer. The Drama Triangle plays out at an unconscious
Most couples whether married or cohabiting work full-time, some have children, others don’t. By the time you get home after a full day at work, having collected the children on the way (if you have them), you are already tired
Are you thinking about having counselling or therapy? Do you know how and where to find the right therapist and are you sure you will know what to do or say when you get there? Therapy can be complicated and
We have all at some point experienced situations we believe we are unable to deal with because we feel they are beyond our realm of coping mechanism. They can leave us feeling vulnerable or afraid and when our self-confidence is
Do you compare yourself to others and instead of feeling good you end up with bouts of self-doubt, anxiety and believing you are not good enough? Are you obsessed with keeping up-to-date and following friends, family and colleagues on social
Do you often feel low, down or sad? Do you find yourself struggling to concentrate, lethargic, tired, stressed, angry, irritable or lacking in motivation? Have you lost enjoyment or enthusiasm for usual activities and started to withdraw from your social
How resilient are you? You’re most likely too busy juggling home, children, career and attempting to establish some form of work-life balance to notice. “Resilience is a precious skill. People who have it tend to also have three underlying advantages:
This book is an essential guide for parents, teachers, health professionals, therapists and anyone working or caring for children. Levine and Kline provide valuable information and tools to help recognise, prevent and heal childhood trauma from infancy to adolescence. Trauma
Does your child exhibit stress, anxiety, mood swings and temper tantrums? Or are they stressed, anxious and withdrawn? Do they have a tendency to be hyperactive or lethargic? Have you noticed they don’t seem to show much curiosity to explore
We are born with a set of basic relational needs – acceptance, affection, security, attention, appreciation, approval, encouragement, respect and support. When one or more of these needs are missing in childhood, the child learns to adapt their behaviour in an
This book is about how people process information, what motivates them and how they make decisions. Shelle Rose Charvet explores how language and behaviour patterns manifest unconsciously, how we can identify it in ourselves and others, and how we can
This book explores the root causes of mistrust and the journey we take when we are betrayed or hurt by another. It explains why we don’t see the world clearly when we feel deceived and how we fall into a
This book explores the psychological games we play in our relationships with family, friends, work colleagues and loved ones. Every interaction or social intercourse with another person is an opportunity to unconsciously play one or more of the many games,
Do you sometimes get overanxious or panicky and find yourself unable to deal with everyday life? Do you feel vulnerable helpless and afraid when faced with certain situations, as if your usual coping mechanisms have suddenly failed? Most of us
Are you keeping things to yourself? Is it difficult for your partner to understand what you are going through and provide the right levels of help and support? Do you find a busy day at work, a poorly child, frequent
Are you struggling to come to terms with the loss of a loved one? Was it sudden and unexpected, leaving you with things left unsaid or unresolved feelings? Or were there issues in your relationship, so the only thing you
Are you struggling with low libido and find that you are always rejecting sexual advances from your partner? Or have you experienced a sexual trauma in your past and are now wary about intimacy? Alternatively, you might have been shamed,
In this book, author and paediatrician Kenneth Ginsburg, offers parents, teachers and primary caregivers a guide to help children and teens deal with stress and build seven key principles to develop resilience and cope with life’s challenges – competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution,
Are you struggling to remember what it felt like to be in love with the person that you now find yourself in conflict with? Do you yearn to experience that dream like, fuzzy feeling you had when you first fell
Are you self-absorbed, temperamental, prone to drama and at times feel helpless and hopeless? Do your moods change quickly when you are not appreciated, or your needs are not met by your partner, resulting in you feeling angry, ashamed, depressed,
As we mark World Bipolar Day on March 30, we wanted to raise awareness of this troubling mental illness and explain more about what it is, what causes it and what help is available. What is it? Bipolar disorder is
Does your partner undermine your confidence, put you down, crush your spirit, make you feel small, use sly jokes, criticise, blame or intimidate you? Are you often treading on emotional eggshells, doubting your own integrity, feel like you are kept
Q. I’m 36, divorced with two sons. I was single for 4 years after I separated from my husband. Every week when my mother called she asked if I’d found a man. She’d give me a lecture about why I
Do you believe you need to work hard, be successful and achieve to feel accepted and appreciated? Are you afraid of failure and worry about how you’re perceived? Like the proverbial social chameleon, do you adapt your life, beliefs and
Are you friendly, generous, self-sacrificing, well-meaning and driven to maintain harmony whatever the cost? In a relationship, do you find yourself taking on the role of peacemaker, often resulting in a parent-child dynamic, where you sacrifice your own needs it
Do you have a strong sense of right and wrong? Are you picky, judgemental, opinionated and impatient? And whilst you may be highly critical of other people, are you in fact much harder on yourself? Do you believe you are
In this clear and easy to read book, authors Wendy and Larry Maltz explain how easy it is to become addicted to porn. They shed new light on the compelling nature and destructive power of today’s instantly available pornography. It
Twenty years ago, saying the word porn in public may well have resulted in raised eyebrows and silent murmurings. The once British stiff upper lip attitude towards sex has now evolved and our cultural attitude towards it has changed. Pornography
When you experience something unfamiliar, frustrating or uncomfortable, do you find yourself overwhelmed by negative thoughts and a feeling that you are losing control? You could be battling a large workload or university deadlines, feeling anxious about a visit to
Are you struggling to communicate your feelings or differences of opinion to your partner? But instead of feeling valued and understood, do you find yourself frustrated angry and resort to shouting as you know your thoughts, concerns or ideas have
We have a tendency to hold on to the past, dwell on mistakes or negative experiences, and worry about the future. We can get so wrapped up in our negative thoughts that we end up becoming stressed and anxious and
Are feelings of unworthiness and self-hatred limiting your life? Do you hide your real self, or sabotage situations and opportunities because you don’t feel you deserve to be happy? If this sounds familiar, then read on… ‘To be yourself in
As last year comes to an end and the new year begins, we often look back with some level of criticism at what we’ve accomplished and set New Year’s resolutions – exercise more, eat well, dry January, change jobs, ditch
Most people have at some point bought a raffle or lottery ticket, placed a bet on a horse at the Grand National or had a go at a slot machine. You might be one of the regular weekly lottery buyers
Q. I’m divorced from the father of my two sons, now age 7 & 11. I’ve had a few failed relationships but in the last eighteen months met someone with whom I could be really happy. His wife died of
Many unresolved relationship issues contribute to high stress levels, and if left unresolved can lead to much bigger problems, including separation or divorce. What once started as small frustrations often become big irritations when ignored. Sometimes we go into denial
This book, originally published in 1992, has become an international bestseller. It explores the differences between men and women, and how we can have better relationships through building better communication, understanding and acceptance. We live in a world where women
Back in March we entered the unknown territory of Covid-19 restrictions. Going into isolation and the first lockdown changed our world overnight. Those who could, worked from home, schools, colleges and universities closed with children being home schooled. Stepping out
Q. My husband works from home since the first lockdown back in March, and I’ve continued going into work. I leave early in the morning and get back around 5pm. When I get in he’s usually in front of the TV
I’m a woman on a mission when I’m out shopping, especially in supermarkets. I like to get in, pick, pay and get out as quickly as possible. The whole concept of superstores with bright lights, shopping trolleys, screaming kids and
The current global pandemic has forced us into a life we’ve not experienced before. For those working from home and in co-habiting relationships means working and living with your partner or spouse 24/7, with or without children. Any relationship cracks
Q. I’ve been with my partner 7 years; we have two daughters age 4 and nearly 6. Life has become a series of routines we perform every day, as if on autopilot – I take care of the children, house, cleaning,
BOTTLES? NOBODY SAID ANYTHING ABOUT BOTTLES JUST THAT THE SMOOTH TASTE OF ALCOHOL WAS HARMLESS FUN! My stomach is a Benetton advert of various shades of alcoholic grape juice and spirts – It is even beginning to look a little
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for 5 years. The first two years were good, we went out, had fun. Three years ago he lost his job and since then he has struggled to stay in another
Q. My daughter was given her GCSE grades without exams like other students in this time of Covid. She was reasonably happy with the results. She was already stressed and anxious before the lockdown – she worked until late every
In today’s busy lives with increasing pressures and demands on time, as well as coping with the changes the current global pandemic brings, it’s easy to let your relationship slip down the list of priorities, take it for granted and
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