People think that when you want to change your life, you need to think big. But world-renowned habits expert James Clear has discovered another way. He knows that real change comes from the compound effect of hundreds of small decisions:
Are you thinking about having counselling or therapy? Do you know how and where to find the right therapist and are you sure you will know what to do or say when you get there? Therapy can be complicated and
Are you friendly, generous, self-sacrificing, well-meaning and driven to maintain harmony whatever the cost? In a relationship, do you find yourself taking on the role of peacemaker, often resulting in a parent-child dynamic, where you sacrifice your own needs it
Are you struggling to communicate your feelings or differences of opinion to your partner? But instead of feeling valued and understood, do you find yourself frustrated angry and resort to shouting as you know your thoughts, concerns or ideas have
Does your partner undermine your confidence, put you down, crush your spirit, make you feel small, use sly jokes, criticise, blame or intimidate you? Are you often treading on emotional eggshells, doubting your own integrity, feel like you are kept
Do you believe you need to work hard, be successful and achieve to feel accepted and appreciated? Are you afraid of failure and worry about how you’re perceived? Like the proverbial social chameleon, do you adapt your life, beliefs and
Back in the 70s & 80s children and teenagers seemed to be more resilient than the current generation of future adults. Is it my imagination because I’m now older, a product of being a teenager in the 70s? Or are
In this book, author and paediatrician Kenneth Ginsburg, offers parents, teachers and primary caregivers a guide to help children and teens deal with stress and build seven key principles to develop resilience and cope with life’s challenges – competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution,
In Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel looks at the story of sex in committed couples. Modern romance promises it all – a lifetime of togetherness, intimacy and erotic desire. In reality, it’s hard to want what you already have. Our
The start of a new year is filled with the promises of new beginnings. It’s also the most popular time for couples to separate or file for divorce. There’s usually a journey with many stumbling blocks and relationship cracks that
As the year comes to an end and the new one begins, we often look back with some level of criticism at what we’ve accomplished and set New Year’s resolutions – exercise more, eat well, dry January, change jobs, ditch
I thought that once I grew up, Christmas would stop being a battle ground and I could begin to enjoy the Festive Season. It’s after all the Season to be Jolly. Whilst the media was (and still is) busy promoting
Many unresolved relationship issues contribute to high stress levels, and if left unresolved can lead to much bigger problems, including separation or divorce. What once started as small frustrations often become big irritations when ignored. Sometimes we go into denial
‘Reasons to Stay Alive’ is Matt Haig’s personal account of how he pulled himself away from the brink of suicide, worked through depression, anxiety and mental crisis, and learned to live again. We are all touched at some point in
Q. I’ve been with my partner 7 years; we have two daughters age 4 and nearly 6. Life has become a series of routines we perform every day, as if on autopilot – I take care of the children, house, cleaning,
When you experience something unfamiliar, frustrating or uncomfortable, do you find yourself overwhelmed by negative thoughts and a feeling that you are losing control? You could be juggling a large workload, relationship and family commitments, or feeling anxious about a
Relationships are always changing and evolving. We learn from each other, for better or for worse. We adapt to each other’s needs, behaviours or quirky habits. However, what happens when we cannot find a way to adapt? Whether your relationship
Q. My partner accuses me of cheating and looking at other women when we are out. She won’t say anything whilst we’re in a bar, restaurant or at a friend’s house, but as soon as we leave, she launches into a
Q. I’m happily married with three children; I have a good job, live in a nice house, have an amazing wife and love my kids dearly. Life at home with my family is good, we are happy. At work I’m
Do you know who you really are? Do you feel lost or empty? If you met your true self would you like that person? Think about all the masks you wear. You most likely present your best ‘self’ to work
Do you fear the unknown? Or are you holding on to the past in the hope it will get better? Do negative thoughts creep in, take hold and become major worries about things you fear may happen? We all have
Are you caught up in the weight loss and weight gain cycle? Do you turn to food for comfort or do you stop eating to gain control? How do you view food when your emotional centre is out of balance?
Co-founder of A Year of Dates, the little box of magic for couples We get it… as partners in life, parenthood and business, making time for each other can so easily become non existent. In fact we’re still making our
What happens when you discover your partner is having an affair? Does how you find out have an impact on how you deal with it? Or do you want to know all the intricate details of who, when, where and how often?
In When the Body Says No, Dr Gabor Maté provides the answers to critical questions about the mind-body link, and the role that stress and our emotional makeup play in an array of common diseases. Based on years of scientific research
Are feelings of unworthiness and self-hatred limiting your life? Do you hide your real self, or sabotage situations and opportunities because you don’t feel you deserve to be happy? If this sounds familiar, then read on… ‘To be yourself in
Have you enjoyed working from home? Did you manage to get into a comfortable routine and now find yourself struggling with the idea of needing to go into the office? Working from home Since the first lockdown back in March
As September begins, many youngsters are embarking on a new phase of their life – university. Parents prepare to wave good-bye to the child they nurtured for the past 18 or 19 years. Gone are the days when you tucked
Are you struggling to communicate your feelings or differences of opinion to your partner? Instead of feeling valued, acknowledged and understood, do you find yourself feeling frustrated or even angry? Sense the triggers It’s quite common in a relationship to
The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate. Everywhere we turn, there are messages that tell us who, what and how
In today’s busy lives with increasing pressures and demands on time, as well as coping with the changes the current global pandemic brings, it’s easy to let your relationship slip down the list of priorities, take it for granted and
In this book, New York Times bestseller author, speaker and psychotherapist Esther Perel delves into some of the complexities of infidelity. Perel offers insights into why people cheat and why it hurts so much when you find out about your partner has
Do you have a strong sense of right and wrong? Are you picky, judgemental, opinionated and impatient? And whilst you may be highly critical of other people, are you in fact much harder on yourself? Do you believe you are
Are you at a crossroads in your career, relationship or life choices and don’t know which direction to go? Do you fear making the wrong decision? Or does your inner critic kick in a little too quickly drowning all possible
Tension, resentment, anger, arguments and power battles in relationships can quickly build up. They are the result of communication breaking down long before you become aware or willing to admit. Like a dripping tap – it builds up until the
My wife and I have been together 18 years. Life was great; we got on really well, had fun, amazing holidays, a lot of laughter and were equally matched with our views on life. It all changed after our first son was born.
This book explores the Drama Triangle and the games, behaviours, beliefs, perceptions and pay-offs of each of the three roles we play in our interactions with others – persecutor, victim and rescuer. The Drama Triangle plays out at an unconscious
Most couples whether married or cohabiting work full-time, some have children, others don’t. By the time you get home after a full day at work, having collected the children on the way (if you have them), you are already tired
We have all at some point experienced situations we believe we are unable to deal with because we feel they are beyond our realm of coping mechanism. They can leave us feeling vulnerable or afraid and when our self-confidence is
Do you compare yourself to others and instead of feeling good you end up with bouts of self-doubt, anxiety and believing you are not good enough? Are you obsessed with keeping up-to-date and following friends, family and colleagues on social
Do you often feel low, down or sad? Do you find yourself struggling to concentrate, lethargic, tired, stressed, angry, irritable or lacking in motivation? Have you lost enjoyment or enthusiasm for usual activities and started to withdraw from your social
How resilient are you? You’re most likely too busy juggling home, children, career and attempting to establish some form of work-life balance to notice. “Resilience is a precious skill. People who have it tend to also have three underlying advantages:
This book is an essential guide for parents, teachers, health professionals, therapists and anyone working or caring for children. Levine and Kline provide valuable information and tools to help recognise, prevent and heal childhood trauma from infancy to adolescence. Trauma
Does your child exhibit stress, anxiety, mood swings and temper tantrums? Or are they stressed, anxious and withdrawn? Do they have a tendency to be hyperactive or lethargic? Have you noticed they don’t seem to show much curiosity to explore
We are born with a set of basic relational needs – acceptance, affection, security, attention, appreciation, approval, encouragement, respect and support. When one or more of these needs are missing in childhood, the child learns to adapt their behaviour in an
This book is about how people process information, what motivates them and how they make decisions. Shelle Rose Charvet explores how language and behaviour patterns manifest unconsciously, how we can identify it in ourselves and others, and how we can
This book explores the root causes of mistrust and the journey we take when we are betrayed or hurt by another. It explains why we don’t see the world clearly when we feel deceived and how we fall into a
This book explores the psychological games we play in our relationships with family, friends, work colleagues and loved ones. Every interaction or social intercourse with another person is an opportunity to unconsciously play one or more of the many games,
Do you sometimes get overanxious or panicky and find yourself unable to deal with everyday life? Do you feel vulnerable helpless and afraid when faced with certain situations, as if your usual coping mechanisms have suddenly failed? Most of us
Are you keeping things to yourself? Is it difficult for your partner to understand what you are going through and provide the right levels of help and support? Do you find a busy day at work, a poorly child, frequent
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